More *Me* Than Ever

How I reset after motherhood, burnout, and years of doing it “the right way”

There was a time when my entire day could be ruined by the way my jeans fit. Or the number on the scale. Or what I ate (or didn’t eat) the night before.

In college, I spent a lot of energy trying to stay in control of my body. I called it “being healthy,” but the truth? I was deep in disordered eating. I thought the smaller I got, the more worthy and liked I’d become.

And even though I was doing all the “right” things—skipping meals, working out obsessively, tracking every bite—I never felt at home in myself. It was exhausting.

But that discomfort is what nudged me into wellness in the first place.

I didn’t want to obsess forever. I wanted to understand my body, to feel grounded in it. I’ve always been very self-aware. That curiosity eventually led me to study nutrition, and honestly, to rebuild everything I thought I knew about health.

Fast forward a decade or so—going through IVF, navigating autoimmune thyroid issues, battling burnout, growing a business, defunct partnerships, becoming a mother—you’d think I’d at least have the health stuff figured out given my degree, years of training, and client experience.

After having my daughter, I didn’t feel like *ME* anymore. (Most women don’t.)

Not because I gained a bunch of weight (I didn’t), but because my identity had completely shifted. I was now a mom. A CEO with her own company. A woman navigating hormone fluctuations, fatigue, and juggling every area of life. Asking questions like, Who am I now, and how do I embody her? Not to mention, how do I inspire and help other women when I’m struggling with the exact same thing myself?

I didn’t want a bounce-back plan. I wanted a reset. Something that honored who I was becoming.

So I did the work. I purged the closet. I rebuilt my routines. I reconnected with movement I actually enjoy. I tapped into my Human Design. I relearned how to eat for my thyroid and changing hormones. I let go of the chase and focused on feeling like me again.

And something amazing happened: I started to feel strong. Clear. Energized. Even sexy.

Now, at 40, I honestly feel better than I ever did in my 20s—and not because I’m working harder. I’m working smarter. More aligned. Less rigid, more strategic. I understand my body now. I trust her.

And yes—this includes both feeling good and liking how I look too.

Because let’s be honest...

You Can Want to Feel Good and Look Good

It’s BOTH/AND.

One thing I want to be really clear about:

It’s okay to want to look good. To feel confident in your clothes. To see muscle tone. To enjoy the reflection you see in the mirror.

That doesn’t make you vain—it makes you human.

Our culture has warped this desire into something superficial, but the truth is, feeling good in your skin is deeply nourishing.

And often, when we start truly nourishing ourselves—physically, mentally, emotionally—we do begin to glow. We move differently. We digest better. We release inflammation. We sleep more deeply. Our body sheds what it no longer needs.

So yes, I’ve found my happy weight. I’ve built strength. I’ve reshaped my body.

But it’s not because I forced it—it's because I stopped fighting myself.

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